FIDELITY MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT

Answer “yes” or “no” to the following questions and compare your score to the assessment scale below.

		Yes	No
1.	Do you have opposite sex close personal friendships?
2.	Do you have same-sex close personal friends with whom you regularly share your feelings or intimate details about your life?
3.	Do you keep in touch with ex-lovers?
4.	Do you share your personal life with colleagues or clients?
5.	Do you flirt?
6.	Do you fantasize about anyone other than your spouse?
7.	Have you ever been unfaithful?
8.	Do you have a hobby, interest, game, sport, or activity that interferes with your connection to your spouse?
9.	Is there anyone besides your spouse that you have physical contact with regularly?
10.	Do you have any family members with whom you regularly share your feelings or intimate details about your life?
11.	Is there anyone other than your spouse that you give to regularly?
12.	Do you dress provocatively?
13.	Do you have any addictions?
14.	Do you ever share good news with someone other than your spouse before sharing it with your spouse?
15.	If an attractive person flirted with you, would you engage them and enjoy it?

ASSESSMENT SCALE

0–3. MARRIAGE FITNESS CHAMPION. You are physically, emotionally and spiritually faithful to your spouse. Congratulations. Still, ask yourself if you fall short in any area or if you have room to improve and continue to work on it.

4–8. AVERAGE. You could improve your fidelity a lot and intensify the connection with your spouse. You’re probably not aware of how damaging the connections you are making outside your marriage are to the relationship with your spouse. For more insight and advice on this matter, join the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp.

9–15. OUT OF SHAPE. Your focus is outside your marriage. You are borderline unfaithful to your spouse, either physically or emotionally, or both. You need to redirect your focus to what’s most important. Quit all the extracurricular. It’s draining your marriage. For more insight and advice on this matter, join the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp.